8 Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success

Plt;bPgt;Turn common adolescent missteps, from relationship blunders to rebellions that backfire, into character-building momentsP#8212;by the author of Plt;iPgt;Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen.Plt;/iPgt;Plt;/bPgt;

Plt;bPgt;Turn common adolescent missteps, from relationship blunders to rebellions that backfire, into character-building momentsP#8212;by the author of Plt;iPgt;Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen.Plt;/iPgt;Plt;/bPgt;Plt;brPgt;Plt;brPgt; Plt;bPgt;P#8220;This clear-eyed, practical, fun-to-read guide is an essential read for every parent.P#8221;P#8212;Lisa Damour, PhD, Plt;iPgt;New York Times Plt;/iPgt;bestselling author of Plt;iPgt;UntangledPlt;/iPgt;, Plt;iPgt;Under PressurePlt;/iPgt;, and Plt;iPgt;The Emotional Lives of TeenagersPlt;/iPgt;Plt;/bPgt;Plt;brPgt;Plt;brPgt;Every child messes up, sometimes in ways that seem sure to wreck their futures: a bad report card, poor sportsmanship, underaged drinking. These are tough moments for parent and child alike, often complicated by the fear that the misstep is also an indictment of our parenting.P#160;But what each of these P#8220;failsP#8221; has in common for our kids is the precious silver lining of a chance for character building and developing more gritP#8212;if we help them process their mistake well.Plt;brPgt;Plt;brPgt;An invaluable playbook for anxious parents everywhere, Plt;iPgt;Eight Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success Plt;/iPgt;offersP#160;specific and unexpected advice about what to say, whatP#160;notP#160;to say, and what to do to help children in eight categories of tense situations. Distilled from Michelle IcardP#8217;s decades of experience working with tweens, teenagers, and families, it also introducesP#160;her signature three-step approach to any kind of failure:Plt;brPgt;Plt;brPgt;P#8226; Plt;bPgt;Contain:Plt;/bPgt; Affirm your child, gather the facts, and control the narrative.Plt;brPgt;P#8226;Plt;bPgt; Resolve:Plt;/bPgt; Explain what went wrong, define clear consequences, teach them to apologize well, and develop a plan to rebuild trust.P#160;Plt;brPgt;P#8226;Plt;bPgt; Evolve:Plt;/bPgt; Reaffirm and re-expand their rights, and establish rewards for good behaviors.P#160;Plt;brPgt;Plt;brPgt;With empathy, insight, and optimism, Michelle IcardP#8217;s advice ensures that a childP#8217;s mistake or rebellion doesnP#8217;t become the headline of their childhood, but instead becomes aP#160;launch pad to a better future.